To the women who came to the Hydrating Humanity Benefit today,
Thank you for being with me and allowing me the opportunity to listen and feel an experience possible only through your collective presence. When I bowed my head to pray, I felt – literally felt – a chord that made a nice easy flow come through me which is credited to each of your distinct personalities, hearts, and souls.
Speaking to a group on spiritual matter can be tricky as we all come from significant stories – we are roles and figures, with responsibilities and goals in these lives and so quickly we can judge relevance and write something off. But your energy was really great and it allowed me to flow through some of the most significant learning I have experienced over my life and, more specifically, over the past three years.
I thought to provide something ahead of time but felt strongly to avoid defining the dialogue but that a follow up synopsis of what was discussed would be optimal.. so here you go:
For starters, listen to your body. Treat her as a “she” as a woman, a lady, a girl. Be kind and gracious. Thank her for all she does, especially after a grueling day and begin to be aware of how you care for her. How do you feed her? How do you relax? Realize that caring for your body via mindful maintenance (a sit in a park, routine lotion, massage while you wash, annual cleanses, designated moments of peace, a whole health check up, acupuncture, yoga, stretching – whatever you learn you like) is equally important as how you would maintain your vehicle. You wouldn’t go months past a due oil change, you keep gas in it, you pay attention to lights and warnings. Don’t take for granted the miles your body runs for you.
In listening to your body, it’s more about trusting that initial thought you have. God speaks to us through our intuition – the voice / thoughts / ideas <insert my desire to learn more about others intuition> that is God. So often people ask me about how to hear God, “I pray but I don’t hear anything back” – and I think this is also tricky because the way I understand it to work is your own voice. We expect a deep voice booming from a bush – and when we hear own own voice saying the things we should do, we don’t trust it.
But who better to trust in this world than ourselves? God speaks to you through your eyes, your ears, your senses – so what are you experiencing? What is your gut reaction to these experiences? An obvious deal like the burning bush would be stellar, but we are in a new age; it’s time to understand God is within us and we have power to live a full life by caring for our bodies as the first way into a more mindful life.
The idea evolves to this next piece: ”You can’t be wrong if you aren’t trying to be right”. And before I share the note I read to the group which I had written yesterday to my sister I want to mention the overall idea that we get to pick our definitions or at least interpret their meaning to us. God finds us in the no that means no and the yes that means yes. We can look at our life and all that is a part of it and apply meaning and set an intention. We don’t need somebody to tell us we are valuable (sure it’s great, but we are so consumed now with the 3rd party perspective that we just end up in a cycle with others when we should be enjoying freedom.) Setting intentions is simpler than we think – it involves no other commitment than taking what you are already doing and deciding why you are doing it – what is your motive? Start with love as a motive and in each responsibility or burden you carry, you find love in it – having a hard time finding love? Consider the other fruits of the spirit: love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, selfcontrol.. OR – you can use my other favorite saying: “Be the relief that you yourself would want to feel.” Make life easier on others by finding how you are strong, how you are flexible, and how you are balanced. If you aren’t one of those things, that is your ONE NEXT STEP. How do I become stronger here? How do I show more flexibility? What needs to be added / removed to find balance?? And – to circle back – the first thing you can clear on your journey is what your body needs. You have the closest relationship with your body. One time, in yoga, I was folded down to where my forehead and nose where resting on the insides of my feet. I was looking at my toes – grossed out a little that my face was on my feet – then I felt this bubbling brew of comfort inside of me – and I found myself looking at my feet in wonder like little fetus Erin in the womb. Weird? Yes, totally – but I did. And I realized how I have known no other thing in this world longer than I have known my body. So start there – it’s really important.
Ok – here is the email from me to my sister. Thank you again for your time and attentiveness, for all your shared – keep me in mind if you need perspective on something. I work most efficiently via email and offer this support in the love of Jesus :) Namaste.
I find the phrase (“You can’t be wrong when you aren’t trying to be right”) applies most in situations where I make a decision based on how I think things will go best – “if I invite this person then it will have this vibe and if I leave them out it will be ideal.” Or “if I go here first then I wont have to do this after but if I go over there then I will.”
When I predict like this and try to be right, I take this role of controller – “Erin, master of the universe” – where I can somehow actually be right. Like I actually know all the other pieces and the pieces that effect them. In doing this, I underestimate the power of every other body on this planet and every thing that is otherwise involved to impact the experience both positively and / or negatively. And even though I love the positive outcomes, in trying to avoid the negative, I forget that we need the crisis of the negative outcome to actually further our understanding of reconciliation to God / hope / Romans 5 type stuff.The way us humans do this - predict – and come up with hypothetical sadness or hypothetical anxiety – “if this then that” type logic is rooted in fear. We women spend so much time dealing with grief related to the future results of decisions we haven’t even made yet. And we should be faithful, not fearful.So being faithful – in the context of this phase – means being authentic to your gut reaction – your intuition – your discernment. The things we write about when we talk about Proverbs and practical wisdom. So you can have a gut reaction “don’t invite this person” or a gut reaction “go here first” and listen to this the FIRST time you hear it – boom: you trust yourself. (Imagine trusting yourself like you trust your very best friend who you have known for 30 years? Shouldn’t we trust ourselves like we trust another person?)When you “trust the voice within”, You. Trust. God. It’s amazing, is is not? Sooo… you aren’t trying to be right through reasoning or rationalization or prediction, you are simply listening to yourself and the God within you and – based on this and this alone – you rapid fire grow in your faith and the outcomes are unpredictably perfect EVEN in failure EVEN in crisis because – above all – you know that you listened to yourself and God so you can derive intention there based on your understanding of your very personal and loving relationship with your heavenly father.This concept brings me a lot of relief because I take power away from myself that I never had to begin with thus removing myself from a cycle of slavery and confusion “should I or shouldn’t I”.We don’t ever know. But we can believe.